What makes me mad about a guy who is trying to date me saying "lets hang out" is because its lazy for one. Because he doesn't want to put the effort in to taking you out impressing you show you what he has to offer. Showing he can be thoughtful and attentive, that he enjoys the same activities that you do, and lets face it a guy is not gonna date you unless he is sexually attracted to. So if you make him work for it and he complies then that means he enjoys your company and wants to make you happy. win win. Also I think starting out that casual starts out the relationship with a lack of respect. He will feel he can get away with anything and the bar will be set extremely low he will never do anything for you he will think you will be cool just hanging out FOREVER!!!!!
Guys are only gonna do whats expected of them and you will only get the respect you give yourself. If you hold them to this standard it encourages the good ones to step up and the bad ones will fall back. Guys that will make bad boyfriends will never put forward that much effort. They will try to make you feel guilty and say things like "I'm not that kind of guy, I don't do that, stop trying to change me", and you know they are right they aren't the kind of guy you want, and women stop expecting people to change. They may change one day, but I guarantee it Will not be for you. If people do change its for themselves, and that's the only way you can change is for yourself. Don't think that they will suddenly turn into prince charming because he likes you sooooo much the beginning is the time to look for red flags. Don't be scared to tell them what you want. If he isn't up to it good then you know he isn't someone you want in the long run. Why are you worried about some guy not liking you because you want him to treat you like a lady? You should be Happy he showed you that now before you got hurt. So lady's please don't except a hang out invite til at least after the third date. 3 is the magic number. After that don't let it become a habit he will get too comfortable then take you for granted but that's a discussion for a later date.
TOOTLES!!!!!!!!!!!
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