Why Do I Hate The Phrase "You wanna hang out"

What makes me mad about a guy who is trying to date me saying "lets hang out" is because its lazy for one. Because he doesn't want to put the effort in to taking you out impressing you show you what he has to offer. Showing he can be thoughtful and attentive, that he enjoys the same activities that you do, and lets face it a guy is not gonna date you unless he is sexually attracted to. So if you make him work for it and he complies then that means he enjoys your company and wants to make you happy. win win. Also I think starting out that casual starts out the relationship with a lack of respect. He will feel he can get away with anything and the bar will be set extremely low he will never do anything for you he will think you will be cool just hanging out FOREVER!!!!!
Guys are only gonna do whats expected of them and you will only get the respect you give yourself. If you hold them to this standard it encourages the good ones to step up and the bad ones will fall back. Guys that will make bad boyfriends will never put forward that much effort. They will try to make you feel guilty and say things like "I'm not that kind of guy, I don't do that, stop trying to change me", and you know they are right they aren't the kind of guy you want, and women stop expecting people to change. They may change one day, but I guarantee it Will not be for you. If people do change its for themselves, and that's the only way you can change is for yourself. Don't think that they will suddenly turn into prince charming because he likes you sooooo much the beginning is the time to look for red flags. Don't be scared to tell them what you want. If he isn't up to it good then you know he isn't someone you want in the long run. Why are you worried about some guy not liking you because you want him to treat you like a lady? You should be Happy he showed you that now before you got hurt. So lady's please don't except  a hang out invite til at least after the third date. 3 is the magic number. After that don't let it become a habit he will get too comfortable then take you for granted but that's a discussion for a later date.


TOOTLES!!!!!!!!!!!

Introduction and First Entry

I am writing this blog based on my own experience and opinions. This is mostly based on the fact that Dr. Phil commonly quotes "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
     My first entry is about online dating, and how fast you should give someone your number. This entry is triggered by once again I gave my number too fast and got a crazy.
    Generally my rule is DO NOT give your number or recieve someone elses in the first 3 days of conversating online with this person. My reasons for this are...

1. Most guys online that ask for your number online right away are unusually persistant. They will text over and over again when you dont answer right away they get extremely agitated. Its very disturbing. If someone gets angry because you take too long to answer a text or dont return calls right way beware these are red flags for controlling and abusive behavior.
2. They are lazy and looking for immediate gratification. They will not be willing to do anything to impress you which will travel over to the relationship in the form of selfishness and definatly wont go out of his way to make you happy.
3. They will just have unusual values, and will argue with you they will put yours down in order to make you feel like you would be lucky if he accepted you. These guys are con-artists of the heart.  

    In conclusion nothing good can come from giving a guy your number online in the first 3 days. Dont fal for lame excuses like the one I always get is "oh im not on here alot and I want to get to know you." Well my answer to that is that its just as easy to check this site as it is to check your email or facebook everyday. Also if they care to get to know you like they say they do then you should expect the effort put forth from him that you deserve. You are Special and deserve to get treated like a Queen.