Ok I am part of this group on Facebook. Shout out to my leaguers. I asked why don’t serious relationships happen as often these days. I stated but didn’t elaborate 50 years ago it was pretty much a goal. it was just what happened. You grew up you fell in love you got married that’s how it worked. Now marriage strikes fear in the hearts of young people every where. they flash back to nights as a child crying while there parents argued. They think of seeing one there parents move out. they ponder why should I only have sex with one person for the rest of my life. Ok first marriage is hard you have to work at it everyday. You will argue you will wake up in the morning and look at the person next to you and say to yourself is this ugly bitch still here. You think about it everyone still has the same goal in there head. No one wants to be alone. Now for us monogamous types we still strive for that long committed relationship . Even those who say they don’t want it and they just want to sleep around what are they doing? They are trying not to be alone truly not wanting to be with anyone means that you wouldn’t want any one at all no sex no dates no phone calls. If you are still going out there looking for it then you want it. You are scared. You say I don’t want the drama that comes with a relationship. Um then don’t get in a relationship with someone who doesn’t make you happy. Humans have conflict with other humans no matter who they are to you a co worker a parent a friend. Most people that say they don’t want relationships stayed in a bad unhealthy relationship too long. Not every one is right for you actually about 99.9% of the people aren't. When you find one of those o.1 and you make them generally happy and they make you generally happy you see that its all worth the effort. Also there is a argument out there stating we are not chemically made to mate for life. That’s misinformed. In nature there are plenty of examples of creatures who mate for life. Google it this is not the animal planet blog. Now true through out history humans had a long string of polygamy but most of those relationships the man loved one wife and mated with the others but now there is like 10billion people on earth there is no need to spread your seed so stop we are over populated and I don’t want zombies to control our population. Also in recent years men’s sperm count has decreased dramatically. What was low 60 yrs. ago is now considered high. So that disproves that theory right there. Maybe its all just a matter of self control. We live in a society of excess. People who are looked upon as role models have to much money to much sex to much drugs and alcohol its all just too much. They are made to appear like they have it all but really these people we look at as successful are miserable. When they lie in bed by themselves as we all do from time to time and think. the fact is they have no one to love them. No one who cares about them really who wants the best for them. They are shadows of the people they once were. A puppet with the strings being pulled by money and fame. Gone are the days of people just being content. If they were happy they wouldn’t be fucked up all the time. A majority of drug addicts take drugs to escape the pain they call there lives. So how can they be happy with themselves. The human race has had a basic life formula for ever. Why are we now straying from that. Also now that we are every one is more miserable then ever. Even of times and poverty and slavery people where not as stress out as they are now. Suicide, drug use, crime, unwanted children, and disease have sky rocketed. This should show us maybe we should change our way of thinking just a little. I am not saying reverse the positive things we have done. Also this is not saying sex is bad or some rant like that sex is good we were made to do it if we weren't it wouldn’t feel good to us. Also don’t take this as just settle for any one find that one person who you click with and stick with it and have fun finding them.
